This is a description of probably 95% of all young couples, they just don’t know it yet
You don’t know who you are until you’re 25, and you change even more through 30. So if you settle down at 18-23, you and your partner will be vastly different people by 30 and the odds of your relationship becoming volatile and spiraling out of control, thus contributing to the 50% divorce rate, is much higher than you’d like to believe 👍
@VibratingButtChomper, yup, *speaks from experience* it’s true.
@VibratingButtChomper, my wife and I were lucky. I was 18 and her 25 when we met. I purposed at 20, married at 22 and we have been together 9 years married for 6.
@VibratingButtChomper, I agree with you overall, but divorce rates are going up, and the age people are getting married is older than previous generations. Do you think it's the cultural change of divorce becoming more acceptable? I'm 33, my parents divorced and a few of my parents siblings too, but none of my grandparents or great grandparents (I was lucky enough to meet almost all of them) divorced and were mostly together from their late teens, early 20s
@VibratingButtChomper, yeah, but the baby-hungry hormones start so much earlier, do you really expect people to think with their brains?
@Dubiousness, divorce has become much more culturally palatable for sure. However, I also think that we, as a culture, have forgotten the purpose of marriage. Our grandparents relied on each other through struggle, and we are fat spoiled and lazy in comparison. We have become self sufficient and don't (necessarily) rely on our partners the way prior generations did. When the feelings fade, we move on, but our grandparents simply didn't have that option. They were forced to work through their baggage (due to mutual reliance) in a way that we simply are not.
@VibratingButtChomper, I agree completely. I was a stupid child who got married at the ripe age of 18 right after I got out of boot camp and training. 4 months later I'm on my first deployment and the damn girl took my truck, 5k out of my bank, and basically whatever she wanted cause she had my keys to my storage. So please dont be stupid like me. I thought I knew love, but I didnt. I hate to break it to you guys but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, guys, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage....break the cycle, study science.
@VibratingButtChomper, people always complain that 50% of marriages in divorce but they never consider that the other half ends in death.
@VibratingButtChomper, Sorry to cut in, but that statistic has been used to scare people for a decade now and its not an accurate representation of the data.
Divorce rates are 52%, overall. But not in first marriages! That rate is much lower, like 30% or something. People that tend to get divorced tend to do it more than once hence skewing the data. 4th marriages only have a 15% success rate. Especially in newer generations, they are taking marriage much more seriously because their parents got divorced. Really, it was just the boomers getting divorced like crazy in the 70’s lmao. Here are my sources. And a cursory google search will give many more.
@Dubiousness, Please see my other comment here, divorce rates are NOT raising. Thats fun fact from the 70’s people like to repeat. I cited sources but you don’t even need that. Just google the truth about divorces rates. At your age, from your generation, statistically speaking you have a wonderful chance at success!! Especially because you come from a family of divorce. Stats show its the generation after (the children) that truly learn the consequences of divorce
@VibratingButtChomper, if your open and honest with each other you can grow together. I think the issue is more around young people’s communication skills and willingness to work on a relationship
@wolfman69, married at 23 kids right after going on 11 year anniversary this March
@VibratingButtChomper, can you tell me where you got that 50% divorce rate number please?
@VibratingButtChomper, the numbers I'm seeing are more like 15 which is why I ask
@diegobear91, it says children so maybe one of the sequential ones were born around the time of the split
@diegobear91, it took several years of trying which only strained the relationship further
@diegobear91, some states you gotta pay through college.
I'm in this photo and I don't like it
@ARGluck, that’s what happens when you make sh*tty choices 🤷🏻♂️
@ARGluck, same mate
@ThorOdinnson, lol get over yourself kid. We're trying to have fun don't let your insecurities show.
@ARGluck, please, do tell, what part of my comment showed my “insecurity”
And if that’s your idea of fun, you probably don’t get invited to a lot of things
Yeah I'm just gonna stick with being an uncle to all my friends kids
@salty joe, what kind of uncle we talking about here ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
b-but.. i’m lonely
@Z0IDBERG, so bang a hooker.
@Guy Fawkes, but what if she says no after getting there? 😭
@Murphlins, what kind of hookers are you paying for?
@Guy Fawkes, i said lonely not horny
@Z0IDBERG, so pay a hooker to spend time with you? Theyre pretty versatile. Not a lot of problem that cant be solved with a hooker you know
Or you can be like me and make it to 31 years old without ever going on a date or even having a successful conversation with a woman.
I saw a couple walk into work that couldn't have been older than 25 but they had 5 kids ranging from what looked to be 2-6. It was absolute chaos.
Like they got married lol
Rinse and repeat.
LITERALLY my life
I see this kinda thing and it makes me feel better about being single rather than trying again with my ex