Love you guys
I have one friend who really did help me with this... the problem is that we're all afraid of it, until we find someone who admits it. We're all so distant and impersonal now, thanks to technology, that "real friends" are harder to come by. Luckily, sometimes the people you find online become real friends, but trying to stay like that with people you know personally is harder, somehow. The people who actually make the time to have meaningful interactions with you are the ones who you need to keep.
And to do that... you gotta explain how you feel. Fake people won't bother to pretend they care. Real people aren't pretending.
It's new year's everybody - join me in being more real, with everyone you meet. Pretending doesn't help anyone but actors.
Happy new year's, and may your year be as great as possible. 😁
@NeroSaber, wow, after all that, I forgot to make this a reply to @18bluecat. Sorry about that! My comment was meant for you.
@NeroSaber, I've had the same best friend since I was 4 (we're both 24 now) we've always been honest and real with each other and we make a effort to try to see each other weekly. Keeping friends long term like that isn't always easy, but it's worth it for the right people.
@NeroSaber, I haven't had many friends I've been that close to our that actually day their feelings at all. So when my new best friend ran up and hugged me and told me she missed me for some reason that was this huge thing to me. Kinda got me thinking maybe I should say stuff like that to my friends more too.
@A Math Dealer, Nice. And yes. Most everyone feels like us and likes to get a call and a hug.
@mas2de, it's just not something I've ever done before because nobody had done it for me. That's why I'm glad I finally have such a good friend.
@A Math Dealer, keep them around. When you feel like chit. Call them up and hit the town.
When you're feeling great hit them up and hit the town. Might be just the thing they need.
One of my biggest fears is that if I do finally accept that my friends like me they'll reveal that they were playing the long con and reveal they hate me just to embarrass me. I've lived with this fear my whole life
@18bluecat, you and me both sadly
@The Tower Of Pimps, can I join the sad crew too?
@18bluecat, I've lived out that fear. But it was only my best friend. Most people don't have the energy and patience to be that vindictive.
@18bluecat, my friend. Thats really a very pessimistic approach to friendship(just my opinion dont downvote storm me everyone), we cant assume that all guys will be cons. Make trust with people step by step. Thats all probably, again im sorry.
@18bluecat, I understand. I have a group of friends from high school and we keep in contact but recently they all got together for dinner and no one told me. I found out from Snapchat and when I asked why no one told me ignored me. But hey at least there’s friends here
@18bluecat, Fun fact my first girlfriend/first crush ever did that to me and it destroyed me. She said she never liked me and only dated me cause she pityd me. :) So yes. Live in that fear buddy.
@18bluecat, KISS (the acronym, nit the band) and Ockham's razor dictate that if they've been your friends for a long time, they're actually your friends. There are people who would play others but that's short term. Very few people have the sociopathic mind for that.
@18bluecat, also, @NeroSaber sent his comment to you.