I saw the opportunity and took it. comment "I <3 big tiddies" if you read this
Looks like a Jojo stand
Unrelated, but I'm really having trouble getting over my ex. We broke up over a month ago and I've like made no progress moving on, which sucks because I'm pretty sure she's totally moved on and hates me too
@Dex the Lumberjack, You're Dexter Morgan right? Just take her ass out if she fits the code
@Dex the Lumberjack, try downloading OkCupid, it's better than Tinder. And if you have some extra cash maybe consider going on a romance tour hosted by A Foreign Affair or Dream Connections. You'll find someone way more awesome than your ex
@Dex the Lumberjack, unfortunately it takes time, I broke up with mine 7 months ago and there is still that constant twinge... but it fades a tiny bit more each day
@Dex the Lumberjack, if you were still in love when it ended (whatever you may consider that to be) it'll be about a solid years worth of suicidal contemplation before you settle into a grim acceptance of never being happy again if you're anything like me.
@Dex the Lumberjack, my relationship that lasted 6 years ended about 2 years ago. I live life normally and still enjoy myself, but cant help feeling like shjt every so often when i think about her
@Dex the Lumberjack, DISCLAIMER: I am in no way a qualified mental health professional, just a dude who has also gone/currently going through unpleasant relationship issues.
In my personal struggles, two things I am currently identifying as being important are:
1) Not assuming anything about the other person's feelings that they didn't specifically verbalize
2) Taking an honest and objective assesment about my own shortcomings, whether pointed out by the other person, or just from my own knowledge of myself, so that I can consciously make a daily effort to correct them going forward, without feeling like my self-worth is less because of those shortcomings.
I try to work on forgiveness, both for the other person, and for myself, so that I don't succumb to shame and self-hate. I think the negative feelings can lead to more issues, like looking to a new relationship to validate my worthiness as a person, until that falls apart, too. Slippery slope, and such.
@Dex the Lumberjack, (continued) I also feel it's important to not get in my own head too much, and feel like I am alone in my struggles.
I have been sharing my feelings with others (in a group counseling setting), and I am recognizing that there seems to be a universal truth: everyone is in pain. I can make the choice to feel like my brand of pain is unique, or accept the commonality between us all, and realize that we can help each other cope, merely by recognizing our similarities.
@Bad Betty, TL;DR: don't hold grudges, or isolate yourself in your suffering.
@Bad Betty, sounds like some real "psychobabble" from a highly unqualified individual. Perhaps this Bad Betty character ought to leave the counseling to certified counselors, lest more harm than good come from it.
@Sexy Homunculus, Before dispensing advice we should probably establish that Dex is not, in fact, 12. Because that could lead to some unfortunate incidents on dating sites.
@Dex the Lumberjack, I had a similar thing happen to me years ago. To be honest the biggest thing is to try and realize why it was never going to work out in the end. It took me years to realize this and another failed relationship.
My advice to you is not to find someone that makes you forget your ex but find someone that helps you realize that your ex wasn't right for you if you take the get into another relationship route.
I am not sexually attracted to Winnie the Pooh...I am not sexually attracted to Winnie the Pooh...I am not sexually attracted to Winnie the Pooh...
@Cotton Johansen, well played OP, well played
It makes sense now